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Showing posts with label Misc. Show all posts

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Article: My house is shabby, but it is comfortable

I am always impressed by Dr Lee Wei Ling's way of thinking.
Coming from the most influential family in Singapore, yet, she is so grounded.

This is a good article written on Jan'09
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My house is shabby, but it is comfortable

There is no end to wanting – after the Ferrari and the Birkin bag, what next?

By Lee Wei Ling

In 2007, in an end-of-year message to the staff of the National Neuroscience Institute, I wrote: ‘Whilst boom time in the public sector is never as booming as in the private sector, let us not forget that boom time is eventually followed by slump time.

Slump time in the public sector is always less painful compared to the private sector.’ Slump time has arrived with a bang.

While I worry about the poorer Singaporeans who will be hit hard, perhaps this recession has come at an opportune time for many of us. It will give us an incentive to reconsider our priorities in life.

Decades of the good life have made us soft.

The wealthy especially, but also the middle class in Singapore , have had it so good for so long, what they once considered luxuries, they now think of as necessities. A mobile phone, for instance, is now a statement about who you are, not just a piece of equipment for communication. Hence many people buy the latest model though their existing mobile phones are still in perfect working order.

A Mercedes-Benz is no longer adequate as a status symbol. For millionaires who wish to show the world they have taste, a Ferrari or a Porsche is deemed more appropriate.

The same attitude influences the choice of attire and accessories.

I still find it hard to believe that there are people carrying handbags that cost more than thrice the monthly income of a bus driver, and many more times that of the foreign worker labouring in the hot sun, risking his life to construct luxury condominiums he will never have a chance to live in.

The media encourages and amplifies this ostentatious consumption.

Perhaps it is good to encourage people to spend more because this will prevent the recession from getting worse.

I am not an economist, but wasn’t that the root cause of the current crisis – Americans spending more than they could afford to? I am not a particularly spiritual person. I don’t believe in the supernatural and I don’t think I have a soul that will survive my death. But as I view the crass materialism around me, I am reminded of what my mother once told me: ‘Suffering and deprivation is good for the soul.’

My family is not poor, but we have been brought up to be frugal.

My parents and I live in the same house that my paternal grandparents and their children moved into after World War II in 1945. It is a big house by today’s standards, but it is simple – in fact, almost to the point of being shabby.

Those who see it for the first time are astonished that Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew‘s home is so humble. But it is a comfortable house, a home we have got used to. Though it does look shabby compared to the new mansions on our street, we are not bothered by the comparison.

Most of the world and much of Singapore will lament the economic downturn. We have been told to tighten our belts. There will undoubtedly be suffering, which we must try our best to ameliorate. But I personally think the hard times will hold a timely lesson for many Singaporeans, especially those born after 1970 who have never lived through difficult times. No matter how poor you are in Singapore , the authorities and social groups do try to ensure you have shelter and food. Nobody starves in Singapore .

Many of those who are currently living in mansions and enjoying a luxurious lifestyle will probably still be able to do so, even if they might have to downgrade from wines costing $20,000 a bottle to $10,000 a bottle. They would hardly notice the difference.

Being wealthy is not a sin. It cannot be in a capitalist market economy.

Enjoying the fruits of one’s own labour is one’s prerogative and I have no right to chastise those who choose to live luxuriously. But if one is blinded by materialism, there would be no end to wanting and hankering.

After the Ferrari, what next? An Aston Martin? After the Hermes Birkin handbag, what can one upgrade to? Neither an Aston Martin nor an Hermes Birkin can make us truly happy or contented. They are like dust, a fog obscuring the true meaning of life, and can be blown away in the twinkling of an eye.

When the end approaches and we look back on our lives, will we regret the latest mobile phone or luxury car that we did not acquire? Or would we prefer to die at peace with ourselves, knowing that we have lived lives filled with love, friendship and goodwill, that we have helped some of our fellow voyagers along the way and that we have tried our best to leave this world a slightly better place than how we found it?

We know which is the correct choice – and it is within our power to make that choice.

In this new year, burdened as it is with the problems of the year that has just ended, let us again try to choose wisely.

To a considerable degree, our happiness is within our own control, and we should not follow the herd blindly.

Sunday, September 07, 2014

Singapore Documentary on HIV/AIDS Patients and Volunteers: 《好人好事》第4集 8月19日

The video of the documentary in Mandarin:

http://www.channel8news.sg/mobile8/ca/tuesdayreport/episodes/20140819-tr-tx/1321214.html

This short documentary shows the the discrimination against people with AIDS/HIV in Singapore, and also shows the volunteering journey with people with AIDS/HIV. (My volunteer group was featured). 

One part of the documentary recounted the story that the senior volunteers pooled together a few thousands dollars to pay for the funeral of one of the patients (as his wife and kid don't have the money). It is really touching.

About 2 months ago, during the new volunteer sharing session, I shared my own journey as a volunteer for the past 4 years. People always asked me why I chose to volunteer with HIV/AIDS patients. I was trying to explore volunteering with different organizations and chanced upon this group of Buddhist volunteers - Maitripal. 

"Our name combines “Maitri” – A Sanskrit word meaning “friendship of universal love and compassion” – with “pals”: we befriend the patients in a spirit of universal love and compassion."

This cause grows on me over the years. The stigmatization is really bad, for instance, one of the documentary production crews refused to enter the ward after realizing it is a ward for people with HIV/AIDS. I do not blame him, but it is his ignorance that caused so much fear in him.

Who does not make mistakes in life?
Who are you to judge other people?
Do you really understand the background of the person?

We just know that these people who are badly discriminated by the society.
They are chronically sick and are suffering.
They just need some help & a listening ear. 


Massaging a patient.

Break fast with a Muslim patient.


Senior volunteers with a patient during his last few days in the world.

Really hope that there would be less discrimination and more love. 
May all beings be free from suffering.

"Om Mani Padme Hung" _()_

Sunday, August 11, 2013

Lee Kuan Yew's "One man's view of the world".

Without a doubt, Lee Kuan Yew is the founding father of modern Singapore. National day was 2 days ago and Mr Lee appeared to be frail, and I was feeling a bit concerned for him. I read Straits Times' article on his new book "One man's view of the world", and I had 3 key takeaways:

1. Discipline

Mr Lee is extremely discipline (a common trait among highly successful people). He exercises daily (jogged 3 times a day and swim daily) to maintain good health, even now at the age of 89 years old. 

2. Practical

He signed the Advanced Medical Directive, which means that he would not be put on life-support equipment if he is very sick beyond any hope of recovery. 

He did not believe in God (at least not in the Abrahamic Faith sense), and cited Darwinism, but he did not totally reject the idea of God or afterlife. 

3. Meeting New People 

He mentioned the importance of meeting people from different backgrounds (diplomats to ordinary people). This keeps his views of the world updated and balanced. 

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I wrote these down to remind myself that the importance of instilling self-discipline, being practical and taking the initiative to meet new people. 
  

Monday, August 05, 2013

Visiting Yogam Center in Singapore

I attended an introduction on root pattern analysis at Yogam center in Singapore. I have been to many different religious meetings previously, but I have never been to a religious/spiritual meeting that is centered around a Swami (Indian holy man).


Being naturally inquisitive, I decided to find out more about this Swami, unfortunately, I found scandal of this Swami. Despite of this, I told myself that I should try to keep an open-mind and be respectful.

As I have attended many religious meetings, the techniques applied to convince people are quite similar:
  1. A successful person who was skeptical previously and saw great improvement in life after embracing the teaching. (In this session, the instructor was introducing herself as someone who took care of US$75m Microsoft business in USA.)
  2. Interviews and examples of people whose lives transformed after this adopting this technique/teachings/beliefs.
  3. Introducing fears. If you do not embrace this teaching/technique/beliefs, your life will not improve or even worse, something negative will happen to you.
  4. Selling hopes. Your life will improve tremendously, or life of abundance should be your birthright etc…
I always advocate that everyone should apply critical thinking. Embrace the technique/teaching/belief only because it makes sense to us. And not because someone else who is successful embraces it.

One of the exercises is that you have to think about a negative experience, and ask yourself 3 questions:
How do you feel about yourself? What is your view of the world? How do you cope or react to it?

My answers: I felt incapable and unknowledgeable. My view of the world is it is tough and very competitive. My reaction is acknowledging that I have my limitations, but at the same time, I also have my strengths. As long as I have put in effort, I should not be too upset.

When some participants started to share their experiences, I realized that many people felt that they are not good enough, even professionals like currency trader and lawyer (on the appearance, they looked so confident).

My conclusion is that it is okay to feel that we are not good enough. We are all work in progress. =)

While it has been an interesting experience, I figured that this technique does not suit me. We were supposed to let out this sound (like OM..) and feel the energy in the room. Those folks who were initiated by Guru was overwhelmed by energy and started to jump while seated. The energy that I felt was headache and I can’t wait for them to stop.

There is no absolute right or wrong. It is a matter of suitability.
I am thankful for the experience and look for to other experiences. =)


Below is a youtube of the Swami and his jumping followers:

Sunday, May 05, 2013

Benefits of negative experiences in Life

Every Saturday morning, I would be trekking 3-4 hours and carrying 6-7kg of load as part of my training for my Kilimanjaro trip in July. I reached a stage where I was dreading the Saturday morning trek, as it was getting boring and tiring. And my weekend was somewhat shorten by this training. 

Last Wednesday, I injured my shin and I had to stop my training (jogging, trekking etc..). Admittedly, I started to miss my training. I miss the feeling of being fit and healthy. 


This experience reminders me that I have taken my fitness and health for granted. 

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I started to think about all the negative experiences I had in my life. They are all very valuable lessons in life. I try to adopt a neutral attitude towards these experiences, and be mindful of the lesson in each experience.

When we are feeling prideful and proud about our achievement, an occasional failure is good to bring back to the ground. To remind us that it is hard work, humility and perseverance that bring us to greater heights not pride or ego.

When we are feeling invincible, an occasional illness is a reminder that we are very vulnerable and death is a common path for everybody.

I am not advocating Pessimism, but rather a sense of gratitude and awareness.

To be grateful.
To be aware of the Impermanence of Life.

When I see someone suffering or in difficulties, I think about the time when I was in their position. It is a time to lend a helping hand and be compassionate, because I understand. 

Thursday, April 11, 2013

Lessons learnt from a HIV patient

Raped after drink was spiked, celibate gets HIV

The Straits Times
July 13, 2008

By Braema Mathi

Bill (not his real name) is an accountant with a multinational company.

Although well-read, the 49-year-old had never bothered to find out more about Aids and other sexually transmitted diseases because he was celibate.

That lack of curiosity is something he now regrets deeply.

'I wish I had known about PEP. I could have been HIV-free now, even if I cannot erase what happened to me,' he told The Sunday Times.

He said he had contracted the virus after being raped during a trip to Taiwan in March this year.

He had hired a guide from the Internet to show him the scenic sights of Hua Lian, known for its mountains and hot springs.

The guide turned up at the hotel the evening before the tour to discuss the itinerary. They chatted over canned orange juice from the mini bar in his room before Bill went into the bathroom to freshen up for dinner.

The next thing he knew, he was lying naked - three hours later - on his bed. There were blood and semen on the sheets as well as in the toilet bowl when he used the bathroom. He suspected the guide of spiking his drink before raping him.

Lost, frightened and ashamed, he decided to bury the episode.

'I blamed myself for being so trusting. I felt that no one would believe me if I said that I had been raped,' said the tall, handsome man who started abstaining from sex a few years ago after a few failed relationships with women and struggles with his sexual identity.

He did not see a doctor upon returning to Singapore. Six weeks later, however, he experienced a deep pain and bleeding from his anus.

He went to a polyclinic where he told his story. Uneasy that the next consultation was a month later, he went to a GP who referred him right away to the Department of Sexually Transmitted Infections Control (DSC).

A series of tests found him HIV positive. There were also lesions on his anal wall and he had anal warts, gonorrhoea and chlamydia too.

Blinking back tears, the devout Buddhist said: 'Imagine - from having no sex to getting everything at one go.'

He added: 'I have been responsible all along. I have not hurt anyone, only myself, by keeping quiet and not seeking help earlier.'

He is currently undergoing counselling and more tests to ascertain the degree of his infections.

'I must remain positive and build up my immunity,' said Bill.

'This is lifelong and I must be strong.'

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I read this article 5 years ago and have totally forgotten it until I met the victim last week during my volunteering session. My first impression: He is very different from the other patients - he speaks well, very composed, polite and educated. In fact, he had some listed companies annual reports beside the hospital bed.

He shared with me that he had decided not to dwell in the past (since nothing could be undone) and do his best to be positive and focus on the future. He decided to do the things he previous never had the opportunity (eg. being a waiter in a restaurant/ a greeter in a hotel). He is also helping some of the underprivileged people in the community.

Instead of self-pitying and sinking into depression, he decided to move forward and help other people. The most amazing thing is that he has forgiven the rapist (who passed him the HIV Virus and other STD diseases).


Freedom



I guess forgiveness really set you free.

Free from anger.
Free from sadness.
Free from guilt.


I thank him for giving me a good lesson in life.
May he and everyone be free from suffering. =)

Monday, November 19, 2012

Universal Studio Singapore with HIV/AIDs Patients & Family

Yesterday, my volunteer group organized a trip to the Universal Studio Singapore (USS) for HIV/AIDs Patients & Family. Most of them came from a disadvantaged background and do not have the opportunity to visit Universal Studio. In fact, the children were really excited to visit USS.

It was a good opportunity for them to spend some quality family time, and also to forget about the dreadful reality for a while.

Recently, I felt I was a bit jaded and I do not get excited easily. The excitement of the kids was contagious, I was really happy to see the excitement in their eyes. It is the FIRST time they ever visited a theme park. =)


There was a lot of mixed feeling along the trip.

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A female participant said that it was her daughter and her dream to visit the USS, and she thanked the  volunteers & sponsors for the opportunity. While I was very happy for them, I was really sad to know that visiting USS (such a simple task) could be someone's dream. Visiting USS is still out of reach for some Singaporeans.

Life is not fair. 

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A teenage boy was asking his mother if he could go for his soccer match.
His mother replied that he needed to see doctor on that day which was more important.

Then, it dawned on me that not just the mother, but the healthy-looking teenage boy was also HIV+.
This really affected me.

If I was the boy, I would ask:
What have I done to contract such a dreadful virus?
Why am I on medication since birth?
Why me?

His younger sister was not affected (There was 30% HIV transmission probability from mother to child).
I could sense that he was suffering from low self-esteem.

He had done nothing to deserve such a dreadful virus.
Life is not fair.

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There was a kid who held my hand and wanted my company. I felt that he needed a lot of love and attention. Then, I learnt from another volunteer that his dad had abandoned the family and his mother was in a prison. He and his brother (both unaffected by HIV) was taken care by their aunt who is HIV+ and has 2 kids of her own.

Life is really tough for these young kids, who needed so much parental guidance and love.

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 Some of my friends would complain about their career, expensive housing & cars, little salary increment, office politics etc.. these are really trivial worries. These patients are facing the REAL challenges of Life - issues with health (Life & Death), issues with money, issues with family, issues with acceptance & stigmatization etc... 

I am really glad that they enjoyed at least one day without worries or fears (except for the thrill rides).
It is really a great joy to bring happiness to someone in need. =)


Monday, June 11, 2012

My watch and my anger


Last week, my 4 years old niece took my brand new watch (a birthday present from my brother), and out of mischief, she threw it onto the floor. I lost my cool and shouted fiercely at her. Asking if she would like other people to throw her things onto the floor. She was crying and apologizing to me.

I seldom lose my cool. May be this is the first time in recent weeks/months. 
That evening, while I was showering, a sense of guilt overcame me.

What am I angry about?
Why didn't I "catch" my anger?
Do I really need to shout at her?
Is MY brand new watch that important?

If my niece threw some other people's watch, I won't be as angry.
Somehow, the idea of "MY" thing is more important than other people's thing.
It is my ego problem.

Actually, I don't really care about this brand new watch.
It is just a thing. 

Anger is such a useless quality (unless it is for righteous reason).
Anger always mess up the mind.
We tend to say/do the wrong thing.

I learnt a new lesson.
My niece also learnt a new lesson.


Fortunately, kids do not bear grudges.
=)

Thursday, March 29, 2012

First Quarter of 2012 & Appreciation of Dharma

Even though there is a lack of online entries on the first quarter of 2012, this quarter turned out to be full of different experiences. May be it is one of the most exciting quarter I ever been through. So many things had happened - South America Trip, Taiwan Trip, Change of Job, Vipassana Meditation Course, Father's Hospitalization and many other things. There were moments of pleasures, happiness, unhappiness, joy, sadness, disappointment, fear, peace, anger etc...

There are so many lessons to be learned and to be shared. The things that are really Important in Life is never clearer. And there is something that is always very consistent - Dharma (The Buddha's Teaching). All the things (positive and negative emotions/reactions) are clearly taught in the Dharma. 

Every time I read more about the Dharma, it brings more clarity to Life.

Written by Thich Nhat Hanh on Love without Limit:

"In the womb, your mother took care of you. She ate and drank for you. She breathed air for you, in and out... you were physically attached to your mother through the umbilical cord. Your mother channeled to you through that umbilical cord food and drink, oxygen, everything, including her love... You were there, you had not been born, and yet you were the object of love....

As an adult, you may fight very hard to convince yourself that you and your mother are two different people. But it is not really so. You are a continuation of both your parents. When I meditate, I can still see the cord connecting me to my mother. When I look deeply, I see there are umbilical cords linking me to phenomena as well. The sun rises every morning. And thanks to the sun, we have heat and light. Without these things, we can't survive...

If you continue meditating like this, you can see that you are linked to everything else that exists - on other living beings, but also on plants, minerals, air, water and earth... 

This is the Truth of Interdependence. 
No one can be one's self alone.
We have to be inter-be to be."


Saturday, December 24, 2011

A review of my 2011...

This will be my last entry for the year as I am leaving for South America in a few hours time. Year 2011 is a challenging year, and a lot of things did not go as planned. There are periods where it had been an emotional roller-coaster ride. I had to be mentally stronger. The philosophy of "Letting Go" has been very helpful. However, I also acknowledge that my trivial problems are insignificant when I took a few steps back looking at the bigger perspective of life.

Overall, it has been a good year. I am very grateful to be alive.

There are lessons that I have learnt:

1. Fear is the scariest when I chose not to face it.

2. Trusted people are like gems in my life.

3. Dangerous people: highly educated, intelligent, rich and well-connected, but without integrity. Especially those who appear to be friendly and kind.

4. Always ASK. Ask for help. Ask for favour. Ask questions. Ask for your rights.

5. Have a to-do-list and deadline. It instills self-discipline.

6. Learn to say "NO".

7. Simplicity is Beautiful. Less is More.

8. Be a dreamer. Live with No Regrets.

9. Meet more people. It keeps your ego in check. Humility.

10. Letting Go - the antidote to a lot of problems.

11. Be Grateful always.


(Dad & Niece)

I am really grateful for my family and my friends.
Thank You.
=)

Sunday, October 30, 2011

On Being Judgmental

HIV Ribbon
- a symbol for both drug prevention and for the fight against AIDS

A few months ago, I attended the volunteer training course for HIV/AIDS patients. One of the prerequisite of being a volunteer is that we should not be judgmental, and we should not ask sensitive question like how do you contracted the HIV virus.

A doctor shared a story about his conversation with an middle-age female volunteer (of a certain religious faith). The volunteer was commenting that the patients had to blame themselves for being promiscuous and unable to control their sexual desire. Then, the doctor asked the volunteer if she had experienced such a strong urge and sexual desire before? The volunteer said that she did not have strong sexual desire. Then, the doctor told the volunteer that she has no reason to judge them, as she does not understand what they are going through.

That's so enlightening!
Before we make any judgment on anybody, 
perhaps, we should ask ourselves if we could truly understand what that person is going through.

Saturday, October 22, 2011

The only good thing about falling sick…

I fell sick last week, and it has been sometime since I felt so bad. I suspect it was food poisoning – bad Diarrhea (waking up almost every hour at night to relief myself), feeling nausea, vomited, having muscle aches all over my body, head was spinning, feeling cold and weak …

I think of the quote “pain is inevitable and suffering is optional”. The problem is that my body is in such a discomfort that I could not think properly as well. I think of death, I think of getting well soon… I also realized that this physical body that I was born with, will eventually collapse and bring me a lot of pain in the future as I grow older (assuming I don’t die young). Understanding the Impermanence of Life intellectually is good reminder, however, feeling the Impermanence of Law is, in fact, very scary.  

Well, the only good thing about falling sick is that it is a reminder of vulnerability of life. A reminder that health is wealth, it’s cliché, but it is so true.  An opportunity to feel weak and vulnerable, so that I could empathize the sufferings and fear of other people. A chance to reaffirm that simple thing in life is good enough and satisfying. A time to be appreciative of the simple joy of living.

Simple Lunch.
Porridge & Cai Xin.
Simple, yet Nice.
Love it. 
=)
  
The other good thing about falling sick… is losing weight. 
I lost 2kg.

Monday, October 10, 2011

Lesson from Steve Jobs: One more thing




"We didn’t use words like “mindfulness practice” back then, and my only knowledge of Buddhism had come from art history classes. Yet this calling-back to consciousness, this art of checking in and course correcting, taught me something my upbringing and education had not: the importance of the “now,” the preciousness of each moment, the essential connection between process and outcome.

As Steve evolved as a leader and as a man, he honed this very practice, taking presence and mindfulness to a world-changing level. His sense of purpose and personal responsibility shone as he continued to create, shape, inspire, and exact exceptional performance in the people he led.

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Today, I feel deeply grateful to share it here, offering it in hopes that maybe you’ll pick it up, make it your own. Use it to help shape your own audacious dream, something driven by hunger and foolishness and focus and purpose, because that is what Steve showed us is possible. Use it with the absolute conviction that every life and every moment matters, because we’ve seen that this can be true. Use it to expand your potential to be great – perhaps insanely so – in some way that matters to you.
And use it to remember an incomparable man who has touched so many lives in small or course-changing ways. Thank you, Steve, for teaching us the power of a moment. Thank you, Steve, for all that you’ve taught us."


Wednesday, October 05, 2011

Optimism



In the movie Dumb and Dumber, Jim Carrey's Character, Lloyd, asks the love of his what his chances are of making her love him, too. 

"Not good," replies Mary Swanson.
"Not good like one out of a hundred?" asks Lloyd haltingly.
Mary answers, "I'd say more like one out of a million."
Exclaims Lloyd; "So you're telling me there's a chance? YEAH!"

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Now, that's Optimism.

Monday, September 19, 2011

The impermanence of excessive pleasure...

Last week, I went to Jakarta for a short working trip.

I stayed in very nice 5-star hotel and was upgraded to a Junior Suite at level 31 overlooking the city. The bathroom has a big bathtub and a shower room with massage jet. The king size bed is huge, comfortable and soft with a 1000 thread count bed linen. The breakfast buffet spread was great, listening to the jazz band at the lounge at night was good way to end the day, and the overall service was good too... the only problem is the 5-star price.

Junior Suite at level 31 overlooking Jakarta City.

I would be lying if I say that I didn't enjoy it. I love it. I got a taste of what it feels like to be rich (I'm not and I'm far from it). However, I also realized the discomfort of excessive pleasure. Having excessive rich food brings dissatisfaction, I felt bloated and lazy. Having such a nice room, I just wanted to enjoy it and ignore my meditation practice and exercise regime. 

I found the "happiness" brought by these pleasures are fleeting and temporary. It is good to enjoy them once a while, but I think excessive of it is unnecessary as it numbs the senses and it makes a person jaded. These are definitely not the "happiness" I am pursuing in life. It is good to have them, but i guess I can do without them most of the time.

Monday, July 04, 2011

Cancer - the number one killer...

My participation in Hair For Hope this year has special significance.

Today, I heard that my uncle's cancer is back, but this time it is in the colon.
Last week, a client (successful entrepreneur) was diagnosed with cancer spreading to lungs.

And they have something in common - young kids.
I hope they will be strong and brave, even though the odds is against them.
May they find strength and peace at the same time.

Om Mani Padme Hum.

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Help needed?

A few days ago, I was going for my lunch and a lady in her early 30s asked me for help. She told me that her mum is diabetic and could not work, she has 2 younger siblings (13years old & 15 years old) who are still schooling, and she is unemployed. She asked me money for food.

This is something new. I have met such people in overseas (esp. China), but this is my first encounter in Singapore. She is obviously a Singaporean and I am a bit doubtful of her story. I don't want to say no to someone who might really need help. At the same time, I hate to be cheated like a fool. It's frustrating!

Fortunately, I was quite free that day. I called up my friend who is a social worker to understand what kind of supports and assistance are available. I also called one of the NGOs (Community Chest). I am delighted to know that as long as you are a Singapore citizen, there are alot of supports & assistance and there is no need for begging on the street. 

This lady told me that they just applied for assistance and is waiting for approval. Anyway, I asked her quite a lot of questions to verify and assess if she genuinely needs help. If she is lying, her story would not piece together properly.

I met her diabetic mum.
I gave her the toll-free hotline number to call for further assistance.
I bought her 4 packs of food for her mother, her siblings and herself. 
I accompanied her for her interviewing at a fast food chain.

She interviewed for job @ Mos Burger.

That's all within my ability to help her.

May be I did something good.
May be I am just a fool.
At least, I tried.
=)

Miracle or Gimmick or Ignorance?

A few days ago, I received an email from an ex-colleague (AC) whom I have not kept in touch. AC was so excited about the "good" news that he sent an email about the miracle performed by his church pastor. 

Quoted from the pastor's email:
"Arising from the many testimonies in different countries of people healed of terminal illnesses by either applying the tissue in faith or singing the song from their hearts, God directed me to arrange small groups of about 150 people with HIV and cancer.
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Later on in February 2011 another healing group was started, in the same four centres in Masaka, Uganda. Blood tests were done in April by the same medical team as the first group. Again God healed far more than I had prayed for. Out of 146 people with HIV, God healed 113, representing 77%! The substantial increase in the healing percentage is due to the fact that the participants were told that the first fellowship had a healing percentage of 57%, which really encouraged them."


Obviously, I am skeptical about the "miracles". If the claim is true, I think the Gates foundation should just engage this pastor and not wasting billions of dollars on researching the cure for HIV/AIDS. Coincidentally, I am volunteering at the Communicable Disease Center (CDC) for HIV/AIDS patients. Hence, I invited the pastor to volunteer at CDC and would introduce him to the doctor-in-charge. I hope to witness his miracle.

It has been a few days and I have not heard from this pastor yet. If there is any response from him, I would update it on this blog.

Another thing that puzzled me is AC who is a smart guy with good education background (graduated from local university and studied in top schools in Singapore). How could AC be so gullible to believe the "miracles" performed by his pastor in Africa? Why didn't AC question his pastor? Is AC taught to accept certain things by blind faith? What will happen if someone really believed in the "miracles" without verifying/questioning? Why are AC and his pastor using these "miracles" stories to evangelize?


The red ribbon is a symbol for solidarity with HIV-positive people and those living with AIDS.

For me, the REAL miracle of life is being ALIVE, and given the gift to experience & see this wonderful world, and to love and be loved.
=)

**Updated on 24th May 2011: The pastor replied that he is keen to volunteer for HIV/AIDS patients. However, he is working a DVD on Jesus healing people of cancer and HIV and will be completed in 2 weeks. He wants me to pass the DVD to the doctor-in-charge before meeting the doctor.

**Doctor-in-charge said that no miracle-healing allowed in the hospital, which is a sensible and responsible way of handling this. But, the pastor is encouraged to be a volunteer, but require to be interviewed by Doctor. The pastor was not too happy, and wanted me to pass his "miraculous healing" DVD to doctor when it's ready.


Saturday, May 07, 2011

Being Singaporean

For the past few days, there were heated debates and discussions between Singaporeans on the General Election. It is the most fiercely contested election since our Independence in 1965. 

Workers' Party's Rally @ Serangoon Stadium

Despite our differences in opinions and views, I could feel the passion and love of my fellow Singaporeans towards our country. And reciting our national pledge at the end of the opposition's rally, epitomizes this Love for our Nation:

We, the citizens of Singapore,
pledge ourselves as one united people,
regardless of race, language or religion,
to build a democratic society
based on justice and equality
so as to achieve happiness, prosperity and
progress for our nation.


While I was reciting the pledge, I reflected about every single word and its meaning. 
We really care for our Nation. 
We really love our Nation.
It is being Singaporean.

There are many Heros among us whom I respect, and one of them is the 76 years-old opposition leader, Mr Chiam See Tong, who is still contesting despite suffering from a mild stroke.

"I am not a brave man. But I love Singapore and I love Singaporeans"
 - Chiam See Tong


Isn't that meaning of life?
To live for something Greater than yourself.

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Affirmation by Savage Garden

Heard this Song more than 10 years ago, but I did not appreciate it until now.


I believe the sun should never set upon an argument
I believe we place our happiness in other people's hands
I believe that junk food tastes so good because it's bad for you
I believe your parents did the best job they knew how to do
I believe that beauty magazines promote low self esteem
I believe I'm loved when I'm completely by myself alone

I believe in Karma what you give is what you get returned
I believe you can't appreciate real love 'til you've been burned
I believe the grass is no more greener on the other side
I believe you don't know what you've got until you say goodbye


I believe you can't control or choose your sexuality
I believe that trust is more important than monogamy
I believe your most attractive features are your heart and soul
I believe that family is worth more than money or gold
I believe the struggle for financial freedom is unfair
I believe the only ones who disagree are millionaires

I believe forgiveness is the key to your unhappiness
I believe that wedded bliss negates the need to be undressed
I believe that God does not endorse tv evangelists
I believe in love surviving death into eternity