Showing posts with label Way of life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Way of life. Show all posts

Sunday, November 23, 2014

2 Articles of Minimalism: Less is more & The Science of Simplicity


Article: http://www.globaltimes.cn/content/892227.shtml

Less is more

Swamped by consumerism, young turn away from possessions

Wang Zhe sat in front of his wardrobe, trying to pick a formal suit out from the hundreds of items of clothing in his collection.

The immense range of clothes included dozens of jeans from well-known brands, as well as a wide array of jackets lurking at the far end of the wardrobe. As he looked past the "basketball pants" he had asked his friend to buy in Hong Kong, he found he couldn't find any suitable formal wear.

At that moment, Wang, who works in human resources with an international company, felt that he had taken a few wrong turns in his life.

"I used to spend lots of money buying fashionable clothes, hoping to win people's recognition and attention. But at that moment I felt that I had just bought a bunch of useless rubbish," said the 34 year old.

Despite buying a new suit to solve his troubles, Wang came up with the idea of changing his life completely.

"Since then I have been struggling to be more of a minimalist," said Wang, referring to a trend toward reducing possessions and living simpler lifestyles. He has since brought his number of clothes items down from over 400 to less than 100.

100-item challenge

After seeing a challenge online, which encourages people to reduce their number of possessions, Wang gave it a try. The challenge said that participants should reduce the number of items they own to below 100, and the number of items of clothing to below 33.

"A pair of socks is two items. And 100 items can supposedly satisfy all your personal demands," said Wang. "It's easy for you to throw away items from 400 to 300, from 300 to 200. But it's hard to limit the number from about 120 to less than 100."

When Wang felt uncertain and unwilling to throw away some objects, he packaged them together and set a time limit on how long he would keep them. "If the items have not been used in the next six months, I will throw them away," Wang said.

During the process of throwing things away, he noted that it is a process of contemplating your life and what is important to you.

Considering himself an intellectual, Wang used to have a wall of books in order to create an atmosphere of a scholarly residence.

"I used to buy mountains of books but only read them pages at a time. I gradually realized that gaining knowledge does not come through a wall of books."

One month later, he gave some precious books to friends and others to libraries.

In addition to donating and giving the items to other people, Wang has a "one in, one out" rule to limit his items to less than 100.

"Most of the time I will get a new item when the old one is broken. But if I have something that I like so much, I will donate the old one first to get the new one," said Wang.

In a recent accounting, Wang had only 87 items. "I care about the quality rather than the quantity of items. Using money that could buy seven pairs of jeans, I buy one item of clothing I need. The money saved is instead spent on things that I really want, like traveling."

Minimalist lifestyle

A common view in the West, as seen in a number of films and books, is that the concept of a minimalist lifestyle is rooted in Buddhist religions which have a long history in China, and also advocate the shedding of possessions.

Master Lijing, a professor at the Buddhist Academy of China, said that according to Buddhist beliefs, everything is impermanent and that people's obsessions towards owning things is the cause of suffering. "So Buddhism advocates a similar principle to minimalism because everything is changing and you can't hold on to possessions," said Lijing.


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Article: http://elitedaily.com/money/science-simplicity-successful-people-wear-thing-every-day/849141/

The Science Of Simplicity: Why Successful People Wear The Same Thing Every Day

Have you ever thought about how much time you likely waste deciding what to wear in the morning? It’s probably made you late to school or work more times than you can count.

We waste so many precious moments concerning ourselves with frivolous details. An outfit will not change the world, it probably won’t even change your day.

This is not to say that fashion isn’t important, as it has an immense impact on culture and, in turn, the direction of society.

Indeed, fashion is where art, culture and history intersect. If we look at the 1960s, for example, the way people dressed was very much a reflection of the counterculture movement and the anti-establishment sentiments of the era.

Simply put, clothes can tell us a lot about sociology.

Yet, at the same time, we’ve arguably become an excessively materialistic and superficial society. Undoubtedly, there are greater things to worry about than clothes.

Similarly, as the great American author Henry David Thoreau once stated:

Our life is frittered away by detail.
…Simply, simplify.


In essence, don’t sweat the small stuff. Make your life easier by concentrating on the big picture.

Correspondingly, a number of very successful people have adopted this philosophy in their daily routines.

Decision Fatigue: Why Many Presidents And CEOs Wear The Same Thing Every Day

Whether you love or hate him, it’s hard to argue against the notion that President Obama has the most difficult job in the world. As the leader of the most powerful country on the planet, the president has a lot on his plate.

Regardless of what he does, he will be criticized. Simply put, he’s got a lot of important things to think about beyond his wardrobe.

This is precisely why President Obama wears the same suit every single day. Well, almost every day, we can’t forget about the time the Internet exploded when he wore a khaki suit. Although, that probably says less about him and more about us.

The majority of the time, however, Obama wears either a blue or gray suit. In an article from Michael Lewis for Vanity Fair, the president explained the logic behind this routine:

‘You’ll see I wear only gray or blue suits’ [Obama] said.

‘I’m trying to pare down decisions. I don’t want to make decisions about what I’m eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make.’ He mentioned research that shows the simple act of making decisions degrades one’s ability to make further decisions.

As Stuart Heritage puts it for the Guardian, “Barack Obama has pared his wardrobe down to such a degree that he can confidently walk into any situation and make decisions that directly impact on the future of mankind.”

The president is not alone in this practice. The late, great, Steve Jobs wore his signature black turtleneck with jeans and sneakers every single day.

Moreover, Mark Zuckerberg typically wears a gray t-shirt with a black hoody and jeans when seen in public. Similarly, Albert Einstein reportedly bought several variations of the same gray suit so that he wouldn’t have to waste time deciding what to wear each morning.

This is all related to the concept of decision fatigue. This is a real psychological condition in which a person’s productivity suffers as a result of becoming mentally exhausted from making so many irrelevant decisions.

Simply put, by stressing over things like what to eat or wear every day, people become less efficient at work.

This is precisely why individuals like President Obama, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg and Albert Einstein decided to make life easier by adopting a monotonous wardrobe.

Obviously, as these are some of the most successful and productive individuals in history, they are on to something.
Make Life Simple

Indeed, having a diverse collection of clothing is overrated. We waste so much time worrying about things that have no substantial consequences, and don’t even realize how easily we could change this.

This is exactly why President José Mujica of Uruguay rejects conformity and refuses to wear a tie, stating:

The tie is a useless rag that constrains your neck.

I’m an enemy of consumerism. Because of this hyperconsumerism, we’re forgetting about fundamental things and wasting human strength on frivolities that have little to do with human happiness.

He’s absolutely right. The vast majority of us are guilty of obsessing over material things. When it comes down to it, they bring no real value to our lives. True fulfillment is acquired by going out into the world and fostering palpable and benevolent changes.

Buying a new pair of shoes might make you feel more confident in the short-term, but it will not enrich your life in the long-term.

Undoubtedly, the world would be an extremely boring place if we all wore the same exact thing every day.

Yet, we might all consider simplifying our lives a bit more by reducing the amount of time we spend thinking about pointless aspects of our day. In the process, one might find that they are significantly less stressed, more productive and more fulfilled.

Life is complicated enough, don’t allow the little things to dictate your happiness. Simplify, simplify.

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I have been embarking on the journey of minimalism for the past few years. I am still far from living with 100 items. 

It is a journey of getting rid of things that are unimportant, letting go of the past, and focus on the things that really matters.

I don't miss any of the things I gave away or recycled.

Nowadays, I only buy things that I need or I really really like. 
So sales and discount, factory outlets don't really excite me anymore. 

It is a liberating process. 

I felt at peace.

Less is indeed more. =)

Sunday, September 07, 2014

Singapore Documentary on HIV/AIDS Patients and Volunteers: 《好人好事》第4集 8月19日

The video of the documentary in Mandarin:

http://www.channel8news.sg/mobile8/ca/tuesdayreport/episodes/20140819-tr-tx/1321214.html

This short documentary shows the the discrimination against people with AIDS/HIV in Singapore, and also shows the volunteering journey with people with AIDS/HIV. (My volunteer group was featured). 

One part of the documentary recounted the story that the senior volunteers pooled together a few thousands dollars to pay for the funeral of one of the patients (as his wife and kid don't have the money). It is really touching.

About 2 months ago, during the new volunteer sharing session, I shared my own journey as a volunteer for the past 4 years. People always asked me why I chose to volunteer with HIV/AIDS patients. I was trying to explore volunteering with different organizations and chanced upon this group of Buddhist volunteers - Maitripal. 

"Our name combines “Maitri” – A Sanskrit word meaning “friendship of universal love and compassion” – with “pals”: we befriend the patients in a spirit of universal love and compassion."

This cause grows on me over the years. The stigmatization is really bad, for instance, one of the documentary production crews refused to enter the ward after realizing it is a ward for people with HIV/AIDS. I do not blame him, but it is his ignorance that caused so much fear in him.

Who does not make mistakes in life?
Who are you to judge other people?
Do you really understand the background of the person?

We just know that these people who are badly discriminated by the society.
They are chronically sick and are suffering.
They just need some help & a listening ear. 


Massaging a patient.

Break fast with a Muslim patient.


Senior volunteers with a patient during his last few days in the world.

Really hope that there would be less discrimination and more love. 
May all beings be free from suffering.

"Om Mani Padme Hung" _()_

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Article: NYT - The Morality of Meditation


I agree with this article totally.
Whenever I meditate regularly, I am more at peace and stable.
I am more compassionate and understanding.
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Taken from: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/07/opinion/sunday/the-morality-of-meditation.html?_r=0

By DAVID DeSTENO
Published: July 5, 2013

MEDITATION is fast becoming a fashionable tool for improving your mind. With mounting scientific evidence that the practice can enhance creativity, memory and scores on standardized intelligence tests, interest in its practical benefits is growing. A number of “mindfulness” training programs, like that developed by the engineer Chade-Meng Tan at Google, and conferences like Wisdom 2.0 for business and tech leaders, promise attendees insight into how meditation can be used to augment individual performance, leadership and productivity.

This is all well and good, but if you stop to think about it, there’s a bit of a disconnect between the (perfectly commendable) pursuit of these benefits and the purpose for which meditation was originally intended. Gaining competitive advantage on exams and increasing creativity in business weren’t of the utmost concern to Buddha and other early meditation teachers. As Buddha himself said, “I teach one thing and one only: that is, suffering and the end of suffering.” For Buddha, as for many modern spiritual leaders, the goal of meditation was as simple as that. The heightened control of the mind that meditation offers was supposed to help its practitioners see the world in a new and more compassionate way, allowing them to break free from the categorizations (us/them, self/other) that commonly divide people from one another.

But does meditation work as promised? Is its originally intended effect — the reduction of suffering — empirically demonstrable?

To put the question to the test, my lab, led in this work by the psychologist Paul Condon, joined with the neuroscientist Gaëlle Desbordes and the Buddhist lama Willa Miller to conduct an experiment whose publication is forthcoming in the journal Psychological Science. We recruited 39 people from the Boston area who were willing to take part in an eight-week course on meditation (and who had never taken any such course before). We then randomly assigned 20 of them to take part in weekly meditation classes, which also required them to practice at home using guided recordings. The remaining 19 were told that they had been placed on a waiting list for a future course.

After the eight-week period of instruction, we invited the participants to the lab for an experiment that purported to examine their memory, attention and related cognitive abilities. But as you might anticipate, what actually interested us was whether those who had been meditating would exhibit greater compassion in the face of suffering. To find out, we staged a situation designed to test the participants’ behavior before they were aware that the experiment had begun.

WHEN a participant entered the waiting area for our lab, he (or she) found three chairs, two of which were already occupied. Naturally, he sat in the remaining chair. As he waited, a fourth person, using crutches and wearing a boot for a broken foot, entered the room and audibly sighed in pain as she leaned uncomfortably against a wall. The other two people in the room — who, like the woman on crutches, secretly worked for us — ignored the woman, thus confronting the participant with a moral quandary. Would he act compassionately, giving up his chair for her, or selfishly ignore her plight?

The results were striking. Although only 16 percent of the nonmeditators gave up their seats — an admittedly disheartening fact — the proportion rose to 50 percent among those who had meditated. This increase is impressive not solely because it occurred after only eight weeks of meditation, but also because it did so within the context of a situation known to inhibit considerate behavior: witnessing others ignoring a person in distress — what psychologists call the bystander effect — reduces the odds that any single individual will help. Nonetheless, the meditation increased the compassionate response threefold.

Although we don’t yet know why meditation has this effect, one of two explanations seems likely. The first rests on meditation’s documented ability to enhance attention, which might in turn increase the odds of noticing someone in pain (as opposed to being lost in one’s own thoughts). My favored explanation, though, derives from a different aspect of meditation: its ability to foster a view that all beings are interconnected. The psychologist Piercarlo Valdesolo and I have found that any marker of affiliation between two people, even something as subtle as tapping their hands together in synchrony, causes them to feel more compassion for each other when distressed. The increased compassion of meditators, then, might stem directly from meditation’s ability to dissolve the artificial social distinctions — ethnicity, religion, ideology and the like — that divide us.

Supporting this view, recent findings by the neuroscientists Helen Weng, Richard Davidson and colleagues confirm that even relatively brief training in meditative techniques can alter neural functioning in brain areas associated with empathic understanding of others’ distress — areas whose responsiveness is also modulated by a person’s degree of felt associations with others.

So take heart. The next time you meditate, know that you’re not just benefiting yourself, you’re also benefiting your neighbors, community members and as-yet-unknown strangers by increasing the odds that you’ll feel their pain when the time comes, and act to lessen it as well.
David DeSteno is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University, where he directs the Social Emotions Group. He is the author of the forthcoming book “The Truth About Trust: How It Determines Success in Life, Love, Learning, and More.”

Sunday, April 21, 2013

Article: Living With Less. A Lot Less.

This article resonated with me, and I have been simplifying my life with less physical possessions.
I am sleeping on mattress with no bed frame. I have less books. I have less clothes.
I am happier with less things. =)

Taken from: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/10/opinion/sunday/living-with-less-a-lot-less.html?pagewanted=all&_r=4&

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Living With Less. A Lot Less.

I LIVE in a 420-square-foot studio. I sleep in a bed that folds down from the wall. I have six dress shirts. I have 10 shallow bowls that I use for salads and main dishes. When people come over for dinner, I pull out my extendable dining room table. I don’t have a single CD or DVD and I have 10 percent of the books I once did.

Tom Sewell for The New York Times
Graham Hill cleaned the inessential items out of his life.

I have come a long way from the life I had in the late ’90s, when, flush with cash from an Internet start-up sale, I had a giant house crammed with stuff — electronics and cars and appliances and gadgets.

Somehow this stuff ended up running my life, or a lot of it; the things I consumed ended up consuming me. My circumstances are unusual (not everyone gets an Internet windfall before turning 30), but my relationship with material things isn’t.
We live in a world of surfeit stuff, of big-box stores and 24-hour online shopping opportunities. Members of every socioeconomic bracket can and do deluge themselves with products.
There isn’t any indication that any of these things makes anyone any happier; in fact it seems the reverse may be true.
For me, it took 15 years, a great love and a lot of travel to get rid of all the inessential things I had collected and live a bigger, better, richer life with less.
It started in 1998 in Seattle, when my partner and I sold our Internet consultancy company, Sitewerks, for more money than I thought I’d earn in a lifetime.
To celebrate, I bought a four-story, 3,600-square-foot, turn-of-the-century house in Seattle’s happening Capitol Hill neighborhood and, in a frenzy of consumption, bought a brand-new sectional couch (my first ever), a pair of $300 sunglasses, a ton of gadgets, like an Audible.com MobilePlayer (one of the first portable digital music players) and an audiophile-worthy five-disc CD player. And, of course, a black turbocharged Volvo. With a remote starter!
I was working hard for Sitewerks’ new parent company, Bowne, and didn’t have the time to finish getting everything I needed for my house. So I hired a guy named Seven, who said he had been Courtney Love’s assistant, to be my personal shopper. He went to furniture, appliance and electronics stores and took Polaroids of things he thought I might like to fill the house; I’d shuffle through the pictures and proceed on a virtual shopping spree.
My success and the things it bought quickly changed from novel to normal. Soon I was numb to it all. The new Nokia phone didn’t excite me or satisfy me. It didn’t take long before I started to wonder why my theoretically upgraded life didn’t feel any better and why I felt more anxious than before.
My life was unnecessarily complicated. There were lawns to mow, gutters to clear, floors to vacuum, roommates to manage (it seemed nuts to have such a big, empty house), a car to insure, wash, refuel, repair and register and tech to set up and keep working. To top it all off, I had to keep Seven busy. And really, a personal shopper? Who had I become? My house and my things were my new employers for a job I had never applied for.
It got worse. Soon after we sold our company, I moved east to work in Bowne’s office in New York, where I rented a 1,900-square-foot SoHo loft that befit my station as a tech entrepreneur. The new pad needed furniture, housewares, electronics, etc. — which took more time and energy to manage.
AND because the place was so big, I felt obliged to get roommates — who required more time, more energy, to manage. I still had the Seattle house, so I found myself worrying about two homes. When I decided to stay in New York, it cost a fortune and took months of cross-country trips — and big headaches — to close on the Seattle house and get rid of the all of the things inside.
I’m lucky, obviously; not everyone gets a windfall from a tech start-up sale. But I’m not the only one whose life is cluttered with excess belongings.
In a study published last year titled “Life at Home in the Twenty-First Century,” researchers at U.C.L.A. observed 32 middle-class Los Angeles families and found that all of the mothers’ stress hormones spiked during the time they spent dealing with their belongings. Seventy-five percent of the families involved in the study couldn’t park their cars in their garages because they were too jammed with things.
Our fondness for stuff affects almost every aspect of our lives. Housing size, for example, has ballooned in the last 60 years. The average size of a new American home in 1950 was 983 square feet; by 2011, the average new home was 2,480 square feet. And those figures don’t provide a full picture. In 1950, an average of 3.37 people lived in each American home; in 2011, that number had shrunk to 2.6 people. This means that we take up more than three times the amount of space per capita than we did 60 years ago.
Apparently our supersize homes don’t provide space enough for all our possessions, as is evidenced by our country’s $22 billion personal storage industry.
What exactly are we storing away in the boxes we cart from place to place? Much of what Americans consume doesn’t even find its way into boxes or storage spaces, but winds up in the garbage.
The Natural Resources Defense Council reports, for example, that 40 percent of the food Americans buy finds its way into the trash.
Enormous consumption has global, environmental and social consequences. For at least 335 consecutive months, the average temperature of the globe has exceeded the average for the 20th century. As a recent report for Congress explained, this temperature increase, as well as acidifying oceans, melting glaciers and Arctic Sea ice are “primarily driven by human activity.” Many experts believe consumerism and all that it entails — from the extraction of resources to manufacturing to waste disposal — plays a big part in pushing our planet to the brink. And as we saw with Foxconn and the recent Beijing smog scare, many of the affordable products we buy depend on cheap, often exploitive overseas labor and lax environmental regulations.
Does all this endless consumption result in measurably increased happiness?
In a recent study, the Northwestern University psychologist Galen V. Bodenhausen linked consumption with aberrant, antisocial behavior. Professor Bodenhausen found that “Irrespective of personality, in situations that activate a consumer mind-set, people show the same sorts of problematic patterns in well-being, including negative affect and social disengagement.” Though American consumer activity has increased substantially since the 1950s, happiness levels have flat-lined.
I DON’T know that the gadgets I was collecting in my loft were part of an aberrant or antisocial behavior plan during the first months I lived in SoHo. But I was just going along, starting some start-ups that never quite started up when I met Olga, an Andorran beauty, and fell hard. My relationship with stuff quickly came apart.
I followed her to Barcelona when her visa expired and we lived in a tiny flat, totally content and in love before we realized that nothing was holding us in Spain. We packed a few clothes, some toiletries and a couple of laptops and hit the road. We lived in Bangkok, Buenos Aires and Toronto with many stops in between.
A compulsive entrepreneur, I worked all the time and started new companies from an office that fit in my solar backpack. I created some do-gooder companies like We Are Happy to Serve You, which makes a reusable, ceramic version of the iconic New York City Anthora coffee cup and TreeHugger.com, an environmental design blog that I later sold to Discovery Communications. My life was full of love and adventure and work I cared about. I felt free and I didn’t miss the car and gadgets and house; instead I felt as if I had quit a dead-end job.
The relationship with Olga eventually ended, but my life never looked the same. I live smaller and travel lighter. I have more time and money. Aside from my travel habit — which I try to keep in check by minimizing trips, combining trips and purchasing carbon offsets — I feel better that my carbon footprint is significantly smaller than in my previous supersized life.
Intuitively, we know that the best stuff in life isn’t stuff at all, and that relationships, experiences and meaningful work are the staples of a happy life.
I like material things as much as anyone. I studied product design in school. I’m into gadgets, clothing and all kinds of things. But my experiences show that after a certain point, material objects have a tendency to crowd out the emotional needs they are meant to support.
I wouldn’t trade a second spent wandering the streets of Bangkok with Olga for anything I’ve owned. Often, material objects take up mental as well as physical space.
I’m still a serial entrepreneur, and my latest venture is to design thoughtfully constructed small homes that support our lives, not the other way around. Like the 420-square-foot space I live in, the houses I design contain less stuff and make it easier for owners to live within their means and to limit their environmental footprint. My apartment sleeps four people comfortably; I frequently have dinner parties for 12. My space is well-built, affordable and as functional as living spaces twice the size. As the guy who startedTreeHugger.com, I sleep better knowing I’m not using more resources than I need. I have less — and enjoy more.
My space is small. My life is big.
Graham Hill is the founder of LifeEdited.com and TreeHugger.com.

Sunday, April 01, 2012

10 days Vipassana Meditation Retreat

A few years ago, when I noticed a change in my friend’s behavior after she returned from a retreat in India. I only knew that it was free and very tough. Later, I met more people who have done it and all of them gave good review of this ancient Buddhist technique.

I was very intrigued about this technique, when I watched this movie about the introduction of the vipassana meditation technique in an Alabama prison. View this Youtube Video.



About 2 months ago, a good friend had a tragedy in his life. When I asked how he was coping with it, he told me that this technique helped him greatly and he highly recommended me to try this meditation technique.
I went for this course @ St John Island. This organization has presence in most countries, you can refer to the website: http://www.dhamma.org/


(St John Island - Meditation Hall)

This is a FREE course, but not an easy one. There are rules to be observed throughout the 10 days – Noble Silence (No communication, including eye-contact with anyone), 2 Vegetarian Meals each day (Breakfast & Lunch), Taking the 5 precepts (ie. No killing of any being; No stealing; No sexual activity; No lies; No intoxicants), No entertainment (ie. No book; No writing material; No handphone/mp3 player; No diary; No writing), No exercise (except walking), No religious objects or ornaments, Modest dressing, No perfume or accessories.

The rough daily routine was – 4am wake up, 4.30am meditation, 6.30am Breakfast & rest, 8.00am Meditation, 11am Lunch & rest, 1pm Meditation, 5pm Tea Break & rest, 6pm Meditation, 7pm Discourse, 8.30pm meditation, 9pm Free time, 10pm Sleep.

This is the rough course (remember: I did not have any paper to jot down). First 2 days, we were supposed to observe our breath only. On the 3rd day, we observed the sensation on nose area. On the 4th day, we observed the sensation on the upper lip. On the 5th day, we observed the sensation on different parts of the body by moving our awareness. On the 6-10th day, we were supposed to observe the sensation throughout the body by mentally sweeping across it.

Physically, it was tough. I had back-pain and shoulder-pain from seating on the upright position for long time. Mentally, it was even tougher. My monkey brain was filled with random thoughts that arise and disappear without my consent. However, I am surprised how my mind works.

For instance, if I focus my concentration on the subtle vibration on my head or other parts of the body, the back & shoulder pain became less intense and disappeared at times. But as soon as I divert my concentration back to my back & shoulder, the pain came back and intensified.
And finally, I could sit down and meditate continuously for 1 hour!

The 2 core pillars of this meditation is cultivated the qualities of EQUANIMITY and AWARENESS.  And always be mindful of the IMPERMANENCE OF LIFE. Anicca Anicca Anicca. Everything in Life Changes. (ie. The sensation experienced throughout our body, our thoughts, our emotions, our decaying body, our physical possessions, our relationships etc…) A lot of sufferings arises from Cravings and Aversions. Attachment to any craving brings suffering. Aversion to any pain brings suffering too.

I left the retreat with slight disappointment, as I went there with the wrong expectation. I was hoping to understand or experience the quality of EMPTINESS and BUDDHANATURE, but that was not the objective of this meditation. Nevertheless, I realized the benefits of this technique immediately – I was more aware of my speech and behaviour, and even my thoughts. I was less reactive, and I caught my thoughts before I react in speech. That’s really good.

I would recommend this retreat to anyone irregardless of religious & societal background.
The 10 days retreat is only the beginning, and the real challenge is to practice the meditation on a daily basis. That would be really difficult.

Mr Goenka (the current teacher) said that there are 2 yardsticks to measure if you are progessing well on the path:
1. Compassion 
(Are you more willing to serve others? Are you more willing to help the weak and needy? Are you giving without expecting any return?)
2.       Gratitude 
(Are you feeling more grateful for everything?)

Wednesday, October 05, 2011

Save the World's Saddest Dolphins


A Dialogue session with the 72 years old Ric O'barry (the activist featured in the Academy Award Winning Documentary - The Cove) and Louis Ng (founder of ACRES) on Captive Dolphins and the struggle to get Resort World Sentosa to release the Wild Dolphins.

For anybody are supporting the capturing of the Wild Dolphins, please watch the documentary - The Cove. I watched the movie and it is hard to understand why Human Beings are capable of such brutality. 

I was asking myself:
"Why am I here in the dialogue session on a Tuesday evening?" 
"Why do I bother to support the cause?"
"Why are so many people around me supporting the cause?"
"Why do Ric & Louis bother to spend so much time and effort on this cause?"

Then Ric said something like 
"We get into a campaign because it is the right thing to do. Not to win."

Because it is the right thing to do. 
Sometimes, we could not just sit back and do nothing.
Both Ric and Louis are amazing people devoting their lives to worthy causes. Respect!

We assume that we are the greatest species. We have the brain to outsmart and dominate every animal on this earth. Some people even told me that their God created animals for us to eat! (That really infuriates me!!!) Who give us the right to exploit the animals? Are you fine with another person enslaving you just because the other person is more powerful? 

FAQs on captive dolphins:

Ric is absolutely right and very wise to say this:
"The key to solving all our environmental problems is to control our desires."

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Movie: The Cove


"The Cove is a 2009 documentary film that analyzes and questions Japan's dolphin hunting culture. It was awarded the (2010) Academy Award for Best Documentary Feature. The film is a call to action to halt mass dolphin kills; change Japanese fishing practices; and to inform and educate the public about the risks, and increasing hazard, of mercury poisoning from dolphin meat."

I watched this show last evening, and I shed tears a few times while watching the movie. When I saw the killings, I asked myself why people are capable of brutality and cruelty for the sake of monetary interest. I realized that everybody who patronizes Sea World, Ocean Park or any parks with captive dolphins are indirectly responsible for the cruelty. The Biggest Irony is that those people who patronized those theme parks are dolphin lovers, yet, they are indirectly killing other dolphins. That's ignorance, and I was guilty as well. 

In the documentary, the dolphins were swimming freely in the ocean, it was beautiful and that is where they belong to. I would love to swim with them in the ocean. We should not be selfish. Dolphins are not born to bring entertainment to people. They born to be free. After the movie, I know I could not ignore it anymore. I must make a stand - Boycott all the theme parks that have captive dolphins. 

For more relevant info: 

I hope you watch the movie.
I hope you join me too.
=)

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Hair For Hope 2011


I am going to shave my head bald to support "Hair for Hope" project by Children's Cancer Foundation. Below are the objectives of this project:

1. Create awareness of childhood cancer in Singapore.
2. Show children with cancer and their families that they are not alone in their fight against cancer.
3. Tell children with cancer that it is OK to be bald.
4. Raise funds to help children with cancer and their families.
5. Build a community of support for children with cancer and their families.

Why did I do it?
1. I am inspired by people who have done it.
2. I feel sad for the innocent children, who have yet to experience the beauty of life.
3. I want to help, but I have limited resources. 
By doing this, I could garner more support from my friends & family.
4. To remind me of the Impermanence of Life. Life is too short.
5. Learning to be detached from my physical appearance.

I am very grateful for the support of my friends. I am really touched by their compassion. At the end of our journeys, it is the intangible things that really matters. Love and Care for each other, as well as the less fortunate. Lend a helping hand to someone in need. I am really happy. 
=)


May you always be happy!

** Achieved my goal of S$1000 donation. Thanks to my elder brother for filling up the gap.
=D

Monday, June 06, 2011

One New Experience Each Week - Vegetarian Dinner Celebration

My family has a tradition of coming together for a sumptuous dinner to celebrate birthday. Well, this time it is my birthday, and I was given the privilege to choose the restaurant. I brought them to a simple organic vegetarian restaurant for dinner. 

I am quite sure this is not my dad's idea of a sumptuous dinner, especially when he asked if the restaurant serves beer. No beer, only healthy juices and drinks. It was the FIRST time my family sat down together to enjoy a vegetarian meal. I am glad that they are eating healthy food that are good for their body, and a few animals are spared.

Simple Organic Vegetarian Dinner

My dad was clearly unsatisfied without meat and beer, but I thank him for his tolerance.  
=) 

Sunday, May 22, 2011

Help needed?

A few days ago, I was going for my lunch and a lady in her early 30s asked me for help. She told me that her mum is diabetic and could not work, she has 2 younger siblings (13years old & 15 years old) who are still schooling, and she is unemployed. She asked me money for food.

This is something new. I have met such people in overseas (esp. China), but this is my first encounter in Singapore. She is obviously a Singaporean and I am a bit doubtful of her story. I don't want to say no to someone who might really need help. At the same time, I hate to be cheated like a fool. It's frustrating!

Fortunately, I was quite free that day. I called up my friend who is a social worker to understand what kind of supports and assistance are available. I also called one of the NGOs (Community Chest). I am delighted to know that as long as you are a Singapore citizen, there are alot of supports & assistance and there is no need for begging on the street. 

This lady told me that they just applied for assistance and is waiting for approval. Anyway, I asked her quite a lot of questions to verify and assess if she genuinely needs help. If she is lying, her story would not piece together properly.

I met her diabetic mum.
I gave her the toll-free hotline number to call for further assistance.
I bought her 4 packs of food for her mother, her siblings and herself. 
I accompanied her for her interviewing at a fast food chain.

She interviewed for job @ Mos Burger.

That's all within my ability to help her.

May be I did something good.
May be I am just a fool.
At least, I tried.
=)

Saturday, May 21, 2011

One New Experience Each Week - Walking Meditation

Walking Meditation in a park.

I learnt the walking meditation from Thich Nhat Hanh.
Walking Meditation helps to quieten my mind.
It calms me and makes me more at peace.

I literally observed the whole process of a leave falling gently onto the ground.
I observed the leaves swinging and dancing in the wind.
The environment looks so much different. 

I slow down
I hear more
I see more
I smell more

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Why do I keep a blog?

(Taken @ the Great Sand Sea, Siwa Oasis, Western Egypt)

1.       For myself
 It is a way to record down some of the lessons, experiences, inspirations, beautiful things, philosophies, observations, and other things in my small world. Many times, I learnt something great and I forgot about it. This blog is a source of reminder for me about the important things in life. I enjoyed reading and recalling the some of the gems in life.

2.       For my family, friends and others
 It is an avenue for me to share some of the things that I have learnt along the way.  Once a while, I would receive compliments from my friends. I am happy they got something out of reading this blog. Some friends are inspired to travel after reading my blog. =)

3. This is my Work-In-Progress Obituary
One of the key philosophies in my life is “The Impermanence of Life”. I do not know when is my last day on this beautiful World, but I do know that everyday I am a day closer to the inevitable. I have wondered what is the use of a funeral, wake or burial service, since I am no longer around. I am more than a physical warm body. My philosophies, my beliefs, my values, my thoughts, my attitude towards life and people around me, my way of life and my views make up me. And this blog allows me to capture some of these things. When I am gone, this blog would be an avenue for my family and friends to visit me again. That is more meaningful than a tablet or a burial place. It somewhat immortalize me (as long as blogger is still around).

=)

Sunday, April 03, 2011

Book: Eating Animals by Jonathan Safran Foer

I would highly recommend reading this book. Jonathan's research is thorough and the reasons for not supporting factory farming are so compelling that I could not ignore and felt an urgency to encourage people to be more responsible for their actions. 


Below are some quotes from the book:

Animal agriculture makes a 40% greater contribution to global warming than all transportation in the world combined; it is the number one cause of climate change.

Someone who regularly eats factory-farmed animal products cannot call himself an environmentalist without divorcing that word from its meaning.

The first time I was exposed to farming issues was when a friend showed me some films of cows being slaughtered. We were teenagers, and it was just gross-out shit, like those “Faces of Death” videos. He wasn’t vegetarian – no one was vegetarian – and he wasn’t trying to make me one. It was for laugh. We had drumsticks for dinner that night, and I couldn’t eat mine. When I held the bone in my hand, it didn’t feel like a chicken, but a chicken. I always knew I was eating an individual, I suppose, but it never hit me before.

Before child labor laws, there were businesses that treated their ten-year-old employees well. Society didn’t ban child labor because it’s impossible to imagine children working in a good environment, but because when you give that much power to business over powerless individuals, it’s corrupting. When we walk around thinking we have a greater right to eat an animal than the animal has a right to live without suffering, it’s corrupting.

Sick animals are more profitable (than raring healthy ones). The animals have paid the price for our desire to have everything available at all times for very little money.

KFC chickens are almost always killed in 39 days. They’re babies. That’s how rapidly they’re grown.

People say ‘What’s the big deal if the animal can’t walk or move, ‘cause it’s just gonna get killed anyway?’ If it was your child, do you want your child to suffer three years, three months, three weeks, three hours, three minutes? A turkey chicken isn’t a human body, but it suffers... what each person has to ask himself. How much suffering will you tolerate for your food?

When we eat factory-farmed meat we live, literally, on tortured flesh. Increasingly, that tortured flesh is becoming our own.

One study found that roughly 4.5million sea animals are killed as bycatch in longline fishing every year, including roughly 3.3m sharks, 1m marlins, 60k sea turtles, 75k albatross and 20k dolphins and whales.

“For me, factory farming is wrong not because it produces meat, but because it robs every animal of every shred of happiness. To put it another way, if I stole something, that would weigh on my conscience because it would be inherently wrong.” – Vegetarian Rancher

So what kind of crime is animal agriculture, which uses 756millions tons of grain and corn per year, much more than enough to adequately feed the 1.4billions of humans who are living in dire poverty?

Try this thought experiment: Would you castrate animals without pain relief? Would you brand them? Would you slit their throats open? Most people won’t do these things. Most of us don’t even want to watch them. So where is the basic integrity in paying others to do these things for you? It’s contract cruelty to animals, and a contract killing, and for what? A product no one needs – meat.

Martin Luther King wrote “one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular.” Sometimes we simply have to make a decision because “one’s conscience tells one that it is right.

We know that there is something that matters in a deep way about the lives we create for the living beings most within our power. Our response to the factory farm is ultimately a test of how we responds to the powerless, to the most distant, to the voiceless – it is a test of how we act when no one is forcing us to act one way or another.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Sense of Peace

Reflection
(Taken @ Kuta Beach, Bali)

I may lose my wealth.
I may lose my health.
I may lose my family & friends.
But with a kind & compassionate heart,
I will not lose my sense of Peace.
I can always walk upright 
Anytime. Anywhere.

Om.

Monday, February 21, 2011

Like Milk? Watch this....



Painful Truth...
We must be responsible for our actions.
Reduce Dairy Intake...
It takes courage and commitment to make the change.

Thursday, December 16, 2010

The fate of almost all male chicks

I felt really sick after watching this video....
I am challenging myself not to take egg or egg-related products for at least one month. It would be challenging and diffcult, as I will be traveling for the next few weeks. Would you do the same?

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Alex the Talking Parrot


Well, it just shows us that animals are intelligent beings, hence, they experience love, fear, anger and other emotions just like us. If everybody see animals in this light, would they still eat them? Would a pet owner eat his/her pet? Animals are more than just food on the table, they are living beings with emotions. 
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Think about this when you want to eat them.

May All Beings be free from sufferings!


Saturday, November 06, 2010

Real Charity

Selected Excerpt from Real Charity 
By Ven KSri Dhammananda Maha Thera
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"You perform real charity if you can give freely without expecting anything in return. The act of true charity is wholesome, has no strings attached, and leaves both the giver and recipient free.
Among people who practise charity, there are some who give as a means of attracting others into their religion or creed. Such an act of giving which is performed with the ulterior motive of conversion cannot really be said to be true charity.
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There are many things which a person can give. He can give material things: food for the hungry, and money and clothes to the poor. He can also give his knowledge, skill, time, energy or effort to projects that can benefit others. He can provide a sympathetic ear and good counsel to a friend in trouble. He can restrain himself from killing other beings, and by so doing perform a gift of life to the HELPLESS BEINGS which would have otherwise been killed. He can also give a part of his body for the sake of others, such as donating his blood, eyes, kidnsy etc..."
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I just realised that choosing to be a vegetarian is also an act of charity. The word "Helpless Beings" strike a chord with me. Farm animals are helpless beings. I believe everybody should understand their actions (ie. eating animals) and think about the deeper effects of their actions.

Saturday, October 02, 2010

Singapore Vegetarian Wall of Inspiration

Taken from http://picasaweb.google.com/vsspics/WallOfInspiration

Desmond Koh (An ex-National Swimmer, three-time Olympian and Rhodes Scholar) on becoming a  Vegetarian.

=)

Monday, August 23, 2010

Volunteering at Communicable Diease Centre

Last friday evening, It was my first timing visiting Communicable Diease Centre (CDC), where I was supposed to befriend & counsel some of the HIV/AIDS Patients warded there. I was a bit apprehensive, as I was not sure if my presence is of any value, and I had never met any HIV/AIDS people before.
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Even though HIV is not transmitted via bodily contacts, there are many precautionary measures for volunteers like me, for example, washing our hands every time we exit the ward, as well as wearing personal protective equipment like glove & mask. 
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It was the first time in my life that I massaged strangers. For a moment, my pride and ego surfaced and I asked myself :why did I want to massage them? What have they done to deserve my service? 
Then, I realized that all these questions arise from my ego and they are secondary. The more important question is: Did I bring comfort and love to someone who is terminally ill and in need of some kindness?
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At the end of the day, I was happy that I could bring comfort (even though it is insignificant) to AIDS patients who are badly stigmatized by the society. 
I think I would continue this service.
=)
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Quote:

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.  If you want to be happy, practice compassion.  
~Dalai Lama

A bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives flowers.  
~Chinese Proverb